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Charismatic People- 5 Winning Habits They Have That You Can Learn

There are two types of charismatic people. Some charismatic people are manipulative, cunning, and adept at sensing and utilizing negative emotions. These charismatic people can use intense emotions like grief, hate, and fear to rally people to share their vision, join their mission, or give to their cause.

In this article, we will be focusing instead on the types of charismatic people who use positive emotion instead of negative to draw people to them.

Charismatic People Are Joyful & Strong

You can act like you are happy or like you are having a good time, but joy is harder to fake. Charismatic people pull from an inner source of joy and strength that isn’t attached to the circumstances around them.

An inner light glows from them outwards. People are drawn like moths to a flame to be in the presence of this source of strength and joy. Within the inner circle of light, they feel elevated, inspired, or motivated.

Charismatic People Have High Self Worth

Few people feel that they are enough, just as they are right now in the present. Charismatic people draw from their inner source of strength and joy to feel confident and of value only by existing.

Instead of thinking about and pointing out how they are superior to others in various aspects, they focus on developing their strengths and passions while acknowledging others’ strengths. Charismatic people feel and act confident that they are a gift to the world while understanding that they have weaknesses and limitations.

Charismatic People Have Humility

A high sense of self-worth, combined with humility, is attractive and magnetic. Charismatic people do not feel the need to get defensive.

Quick to apologize and make amends, it is difficult to stay angry with them or see them as narcissistic. Charismatic people are open to telling stories of their failures and tribulations. They do not need to feed on the attention, opinion, or accolades of other people, so they have no problem being authentic.

Charismatic People Reveal Their Vulnerability

Yes, charismatic people can walk into a room and pull the attention to them without trying. Their inner strength, joy, and magnetism can be entertaining, motivational, inspiring, or moving.

Yet as talented as they are at shifting the attention and emotions of a room to where they want it to go, charismatic people are open to being vulnerable.

Bravery is summoned to tell about their trials, tribulations, and moments of pain to uplift others. They do not use their vulnerability in a manipulative play for attention. Instead, they open up when it serves the best interests of other people.

Charismatic People Have a Good Sense of Humor

Just as charismatic people are brave enough to reveal their moments and points of vulnerability, they are light-hearted enough to take themself lightly.

Open to laughter and fun, most charismatic people can tell a joke that will bring a smile to most faces in the room. Even serious stories are infused with humor to lift the energy if it gets too dark or if they feel as though they are taking themselves too seriously.

Charismatic People Have a Vibrant Persona

Charismatic people stand out in a crowd. It’s like their inner light dial has been turned up. That doesn’t mean that all charismatic people are loud and animated. Some spiritual leaders are quiet and unassuming.

Their light draws people to them anyway. The persona of a charismatic person is multi-faceted and unique. Although they have distinct likes and preferences, they are more interested in asking you about yours.

Charismatic People Have Attention to Detail

The nuances of a room’s atmosphere, the names, and the number of children someone has, or someone’s favorite book are soaked up and savored.

Charismatic people notice and remember details. It’s hard to dislike someone who recalled that your favorite hobby is gold, and your grandma’s lasagna is your favorite food.

Charismatic people take in the body language of the people they are with and engage accordingly. Instead of forcing their emotion onto the group, they enter the flow and gradually turn up the frequency of positive emotion.

Charismatic people cause the people they are with to feel special or part of something bigger than themselves.

Charismatic People Have Open Body Language

What is the primary element of body language that charismatic people all use? They look into your eyes. Eye contact is established and maintained.

The quality and quantity of eye contact cause a charismatic person to feel open, interested, honest, and likable. Liars, narcissists, and people who are self-involved, disinterested, or distant tend to make little eye contact or avoid it entirely. People with low self-esteem or who are shy also find it challenging to engage and hold eye contact.

Charismatic people stand up tall but don’t thrust their chest forward. Grounded evenly on both feet, they hold their shoulders over the hips and engage their core to lengthen up the spine to gain height.

The ribs are softened inwards, and the jaw is soft. Although they may cross their arms out of comfort, they feel comfortable standing still with arms resting lightly at their sides.

AS they watch the person or group in front of them